Project 52 Update #2 -- Baseline

I slept really hard last night.  I woke up with stiff legs this morning.  And now I have a baseline.

Yesterday, I completed my fifth half-marathon at the ING Miami Marathon and Half-Marathon.  I finished the race in 3:30:47.  Now I know just how far I have to go in order to finish a half in under three hours so that I can cross item number 1 off my list.

I don't feel bad about my time.  I didn't train for the race.  It was a little warm.  I've heard and seen people talk about how hard yesterday's race was.  I've heard people talk about how they feel today.  Yesterday was probably the best I've felt after any race I've done.  So there is improvement there.

But in order to achieve this goal, I am going to have to cut nearly 31 minutes off my time.  I have to lower my pace by nearly two and a half minutes.  This is going to require some discipline and some work.  In my previous races, my times have ranged from 3:18 to 3:32.

So far, I have trained and participated in these races as a race walker.  In order to accomplish this goal, I am going to have to be more of a runner.  I have a lifelong aversion to running.  This is going to be quite the challenge.

My target race for completing this goal will be the Walt Disney World Wine and Dine Half Marathon which will take place the weekend of November 9th and 10th.  That means I will need to start my serious training around the beginning of June.  However, to get in running shape, I'm going to try to start running on a regular basis before then.

However, that date presents a bit of a problem for me.  My original plan was to go for the time at the Wine and Dine and leave myself a backup plan in case it didn't work out at that race.  However, as I looked into it this weekend, I was thrown for a loop by Disney.

The Wine and Dine is a fairly new race started by Disney back in 2010.  I have run the race the last two years when it was held on the first weekend of October.  I was expecting them to follow form and hold the race the first weekend of October this year.  That left a couple of races even later in the year as backups.  There is a Halloween themed race on Miami Beach on October 27 and there is a race in Fort Lauderdale on November 11 that is part of the 13.1 series of races.

Much to my surprise, when I check the Run Disney website, I realized that they are planning on having the race later this year.  With Disney moving the Wine and Dine back to November, I'm not sure I'll have a backup race.  Fort Lauderdale is now out.  I could still do the Halloween race, but I would hate to have an injury or not have enough time to recover physically before the Wine and Dine.  I'll need to do more research to find out if there are any races in the area in late November or December that I can count on as backups.

So the lesson this week is adaptability.  The Wine and Dine may be my only shot.  That means I can't afford to slack off on my training.  Maybe knowing that there is no backup plan will help keep me disciplined.

Only time will tell.

I haven't really made any progress yet on the rest of the list.  But I now have a target date for item 1.

Project 52 Update #1

So, it's Wednesday.  Getting in the habit of posting on a schedule will be difficult, but part of this process is developing new habits, so it will be good for me to work on this.

I didn't do much on the list this week.  My big accomplishment on the list was to reorganize the list to help me manage the goals better.  I broke my goals down into three categories:  One Time Events, Events Requiring Time and Planning, and On-Going Periodic Events. 

The first category is pretty self-explanatory.  These are projects that I can decide on a Friday evening that I want to work on them and complete it by the end of the weekend.  I was mainly motivated to reorganize the list by these projects.  I didn't want half the year roll by and then have to break my neck over the last few months to get a lot of projects done.  Based on my classification, I have 22 goals that fall in this category.  This means I need to do one of these projects approximately every two weeks.

The second category is for projects that will require some advance planning or a serious time commitment.  These are generally projects that do not lend themselves to completion on one day or weekend.  These projects will require a little planning, a little research and diligence in knocking out little pieces and completing the projects in small pieces.  I need to approach these projects the same way you approach eating an elephant:  one bite at a time.  In a nice bit of symmetry, there are also 22 projects in this category.

The final category is focused on projects where I've committed myself to doing something daily, weekly, or monthly.  These projects are generally about habit formation.  I may not do a particular thing everyday, but If I have formed the habits by the end of the year, then I will consider myself successful and cross them off the list at the end of the year.  Basic math will tell you there are 8 projects in this list.

All in all, I think this is a good breakdown.  I have a number of habits I want to develop.  I have a number or projects that need to be done to improve or simplify my life.  And I have a number of projects that are mostly just about enjoying life and having new experiences.

I have had a good response to my list of projects.  I have received some encouraging words and I've already received some offers from people to help me with a few of the projects.  So I think this whole thing has gotten off to a good start.

Hopefully, I will have some items to cross off the list by next week.

Conflicted Emotions--One Year Later

When I went to post yesterday's post, I realized that today was exactly one  year since my last post.  In the post a year ago, I shared some emotions I was experiencing about the birth of Jacob and the effect it was going to have on my relationship with Caleb.

On the morning of January 17th, 2011, Julie was induced into labor.  After struggling with labor all day, Julie was exhausted and had fallen asleep late in the evening.  As I sat in the quiet of the hospital room while Julie dozed, I was overcome by the emotions that I had been feeling for quite some time.  I felt the need to write about my emotions and try to make some sense of what I was feeling, so I tapped out that post on my phone while Julie slept.

After I wrote the post, Julie drifted in and out of sleep through the night as contractions came and went and Jacob was finally delivered just before noon on January 18th.

As I look back over that post and reflect on the past year, I am happy to report that everything has turned out great!  The things I was worried about have not even come close to passing.

Caleb and I still have a very special relationship.  In fact, he experienced some jealousy early on after we brought Jacob home and he expressed his jealously by clinging even tighter to me than he had before.  We still do all the things we did together then and we still have basically the same routine.  Julie's schedule takes her out of the house before Caleb is awake, so I'm still responsible for waking him and getting him ready for school.  I still give him his bath and I still read to him at bedtime.  We haven't lost anything that I feared losing and we are as close as we always have been.

Even better, Caleb and Jacob adore each other.  Caleb has tremendous concern for his brother.  He wants to help feed him and do other things for him.  He is truly concerned with Jacob's well being.  As for Jacob, he has been fascinated with his big brother from very early on.  Now that he can crawl, he tries to follow Caleb all over the house.  He can't quite keep up yet, but soon he will.

Of course, we are starting to see some sibling rivalry as Jacob is starting to show an interest in Caleb's toys.  But I know deep down that Caleb loves his brother deeply.  He is going to be a tremendous big brother as I predicted a year ago.

I still feel some inadequacy as a father.  I worry that I am not savoring these days and that they are slipping away too quickly.  I worry that we don't take advantage of these days while we have them.  I know Julie shares this fear with me and I imagine it is a common fear.  But we do the best we can.

I still go in their room at night and watch them sleep.  It gives me such peace to look at one and then the other.  No matter how my day goes, those few minutes of quiet in their room push aside any negativity and magnify anything that is positive.

I love both boys deeply.  They are my sons and I am so proud of them.  I pray for and look forward to many days and years ahead with them and I look forward to seeing the men they will grow to be.

One year ago tonight, I was full of angst.  Tonight, that angst is replaced by a sense of comfort and hope. 

52 Week (50?) Challenge

I hope you are settling into the new year. We traveled for Christmas and returned home the day before New Year's Eve. We had a birthday party this past weekend for Jacob and Julie's parents came to town. We spent the last couple of weeks thinking about and planning for the party, so we've stayed busy well into the new year. Julie's mom flew home tonight and Julie's dad is leaving in the morning, so we will just now get the opportunity to settle down and get back into our normal routine.

The new year is a fascinating even to me. Turning the calendar from December to January is an arbitrary time to change the year. We have a first day of the month 12 times a year and we have a first day of the week 52 or 53 times a year. But people place so much emphasis on January 1 as a time of introspection and a chance to make changes and resolutions. To me, January 1 is just another day. The biggest significance for me is the chance to watch some good football games all day.

I've never been much of a resolution maker. I like to joke that I resolve not to make any resolutions. That way, I've broken the resolution before the clock is even reaches the 12th ring and I can get the failure out of the way and move on.

Having said that, I wanted to get this year off to a different start. For the past year, I've been reading about Project 52 on my friend Jennee's blog. Project 52 is an approach to goal making that focuses on self-improvement and personal enjoyment of life rather than the absolutism of resolutions that are viewed through a failure/success prism. As I see it, the idea is to come up with a mixture of goals for the year. Some of the goals are whimsical. Some goals will take more work than others. But overall, the ideas is to set some goals for yourself and then focus on working on achieving the goals over the course of the year. As Jennee explains it, you work make a concrete effort to take steps toward accomplishing a goal each week and as time goes by, you'll slowly begin to cross your goals off your list.

I think goal-setting is far superior to making resolutions. To me, the idea behind resolutions is negative. Find the bad things in your life and change them absolutely beginning on January 1. If you break the resolution, you have failed. I think goal-setting is a much better mindset. You can still focus on self-improvement, but there is not the overwhelming pressure not to fail. Goals are more about the steps you take to achieve the goal. Rather than focusing on your negative qualities or habits and simply changing on the spot, goal setting requires planning, effort and patience as you work to change the goals. I think success will come much easier and be sweeter with this mindset.

Finally, Project 52 is about accountability. This comes in two forms. First, I am joining a community of bloggers who are participating in this project. There is strength in numbers and being a part of this group of bloggers provides encouragement as you read about other people's projects and the steps they are taking to work on their list. Second, by publicly declaring my goals in this forum, I am implicitly giving the reader permission to hold my feet to the fire. By publicly stating my goals, and failures on my part will also be public because you can ask me how I'm doing any time. It's scary to think that you will have to face someone when you haven't followed through with what you said you would do. Although the primary motivation for following through on these goals is personal, that fear of public failure adds a secondary motivation.

I'm posting this and getting started a little late. I committed myself to participating this year and started developing a list some time last year. But I stalled out and had a hard time coming up with 52 projects. But I finished my list a few days ago and then I shared my goals with Julie prior to posting them here. Now I'm ready to share my goals with all (ha ha) of my readers. I will post about my progress every Monday which is part of the Project 52 protocol. Feel free to ask me how I'm doing on my goals.

Without further adieu, here are my goals for 2012 along with some commentary:

1. Finish a half-marathon in under 3 hours--I started participating in endurance events with the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society's Team in Training program a few years ago. I enjoyed it so much that I wanted to stick with it. Now I want to work on improving my performance in these events. This is one of several similar goals that I have set for this year. Rather than setting an arbitrary goal weight, working on these goals will have the secondary benefit of improving my health, fitness and physical appearance.
2. Complete a triathlon--This goal is about gaining new skills and to keep challenging myself in new ways.
   
3. Complete a full century ride--This past Spring, I trained with TNT for America's Most Beautiful Bike Ride. This is a bike ride through the mountains around Lake Tahoe. A century ride is a 100 mile bike ride. Since we trained in South Florida where the interstate overpasses are our biggest hills, this was difficult, challenging ride. Our team completed the 72 mile loop around the lake, be we were not able to complete the full 100 mile ride. Even though our coaches told us the 72 miles in the mountains was as challenging as a flat century ride and even though we completed a metric century (100 KM), I was left with a sense of dissatisfaction. I won't be completely satisfied until I bike a full 100 miles, so that is another of my goals this year.
   
4. Swim with the dolphins--This is something that I have wanted to do since we moved to Miami. I intend to make it happen this year.
   
5. Read 5 presidential biographies (Washington, Adams, Jefferson, Madison, Monroe)--I recently set a goal for myself to read one biography of every U.S. President from Washington to Obama. I decided to incorporate this into the project by setting a goal of getting through the first five presidents this year. This is really a multi-year goal. At the rate of five bios a year, there could be one or two presidents added to the list by the time I complete the goal depending on how the next couple of presidential elections go.
   
6. Read the bible in year (daily reading)--This goal is about the discipline of daily bible reading. I've read the entire bible through several times. This goal is about developing a daily time of reading as a lifelong habit.
   
7. Take a weekend trip with Julie--Pretty self-explanatory. Looking forward to getting away without the boys once Jacob is weaned and can stay with someone.
   
8. Pray with Julie every day--I have to admit, I started working on this before the New Year. I was challenged by several people to do this. I made it a part of my list before we started doing this together, but I decided not to wait until New Year to start (see about about my thoughts on the arbitrary nature of New Year's Day). Like number 6, this goal is about the habit it will develop and the lifestyle change it will bring about.
   
9. Read 25 total books--I love to read but don't make enough time to do it. My father is a voracious reader and I was when I was younger. I want to get back to that. One aspect of this goal is to read broadly across a wide spectrum of genres. Reading broadly is the best way to develop your mind and stay sharp. This equates to about 2 books per month. That doesn't seem too bad, but some books will be heavier than others meaning I'll have to do more than two books a month in some months.
   
10. Build a model airplane--My brother did some models when I was younger. I only had one model that I built and it was the kind where you snap it together. I want to do a real model where you have to glue the pieces together and then paint it yourself. You know what they say. Boys don't grow up...just our toys.
    
11. Repaint/Remodel Master Bedroom--Our bedroom is disorganized and in need of renovation. There are still nail holes in the wall from the prior owner. There are spots where we patched holes but we never sanded down the spackle and painted over it. There is even one spot where the paint doesn't match because I got ambitious one weekend while Julie was out of town. I thought I would resolve those problems so I got out all the paint. I thought I had found the paint from our room (painted by the prior owners who left numerous unmarked paint cans of various shades and colors). I did a test stripe in the corner and lo and behold, it was the wrong color. That spot constantly mocks me. I intend to rectify that.
    
12. Read a book of poetry--This will support #9. I made it a separate goal because I am unlikely to intentionally choose to read poetry unless I force myself to do it.
    
13. Take Caleb to a UM baseball game--Caleb loves baseball. UM baseball season rolls around in February. Every year I think I'm going to go to a few games. Before you know it, it's May and the season is practically over. Caleb has been asking to go watch UM play baseball for a couple of months now. I'm going to make it happen this season.
    
14. Go to a concert--It's been a while since I've been to a concert. Time to change that.
    
15. Take Julie to eat at Joe’s Stone Crab--I've had the privilege of eating at this South Florida landmark two times on someone else's dime. It's time for Julie to see what all the fuss is about.
    
16. Go to a play/Broadway show--See #14. I need more culture in my life.
    
17. Take Caleb on an airboat ride--Airboat rides are kitschy, classic South Florida attractions. We take all of our out of town guests to do this. Caleb has been when he was a tiny baby. It's time to go back now that he will know what is going on.
    
18. Go to Harry Potter at Universal Studios--We are big Harry Potter fans. We love the books and movies. It's hard to believe we live three hours away and we have yet to have a butterbeer.
    
19. Pull down ivy and repaint side of the house--One side of our house was covered with ivy when we moved in. I started to pull it down and it down and discovered it is going to do a number on the paint job. This is going to be a very involved project that needs to be done.
    
20. Travel to New Mexico and attend a Centennial event--New Mexico is my home state and is celebrating its centennial this year. We try to make it to NM every year at least once. I want to be able to participate in this once in a lifetime celebration while we are there.
    
21. Learn how to use the car radio--I got a new car back in May and, sad as it is, I still have not figured out how to set my own favorite stations. Time to get out the instruction manual.
    
22. Install solar lights in front yard--A few years ago, we received some decorative outdoor garden lights as a gift. They are still in the box. 'Nuff said.
    
23. Organize digital photos--We have numerous photo cards with numerous pictures of our boys on them. We have an iMac with lots of storage capacity and a wonderful photo program. Time to bring the two together.
    
24. Memorize Twas the Night Before Christmas--One of Julie's family traditions growing up was to read this story on Christmas Eve. We have kind of adopted it and we have a small collection of different versions of the story. Caleb found one of them and he and I read it numerous times at bed time over the last year. I know most of it by now...might as well go the rest of the way. (This book will not count toward #9.)
    
25. Discard two crates of magazines--You're going to see that a number of these goals are focused on organizing and decluttering my life and space. There was a time when I impulsively subscribed to several magazines. Many of these magazines site in a closet in milk crates unread because I have some hoarding tendencies. I intend to go through some of these magazines and eliminate them from my house.
    
26. Buy a lawnmower--Right now I rely on a weed eater because my yard is small. I have had problems with the weed eater lately, so the last few times the yard has been cut by a friend that I paid. Fortunately, the grass does not grow very fast right now. This will change soon. This will likely be one of the first goals crossed of the list do to its urgency. Not a glamorous goal...but necessary.
    
27. Blog once a week--Well....I'm already behind on this one...but it's my list and my blog, so I'll pretend it didn't happen. But since these goals are aspirational and about making changes going forward, I commit to this from this point forward. It's about the habit and will-power to do it.
    
28. Attend Attorney Trust Officer Liaison Conference--This is a valuable CLE resource in my practice area and I didn't make it last year. Now that I am on my own, it will be more expensive for me to attend, but it is the best way I've found to stay on top of current trends. Plus, I figured I needed a least one or two professional goals.
    
29. Organize print photos--More organization. We have a box full of photos that need to be put in albums or frames.
    
30. Digitize filing system/go paperless--I've begun scanning most of our files into a digital filing system. One part of this goal is to get rid of as much paper by the end of the year as possible. The other part of this goal is to get the proper backup system in place.
    
31. Have dinner guests in our home once a month--I want to be more hospitable. By making this a goal, now I have to follow through. This goal goes hand in hand with my desire to declutter.
    
32. Go to a wine tasting--Something we used to do before kids. I want to do it again.
    
33. Go on a picnic--See #32.
    
34. Learn how to shoot a gun and go hunting--I've always had a desire to hunt. Why not this year?
    
35. Go fishing--See #34. So many opportunities in South Florida. Must take advantage of them.
    
36. Watch a rocket launch at Kennedy Space Center--When we moved to South Florida, I said I wanted to go see a Space Shuttle launch. We procrastinated. NASA announced the end of the Shuttle program. I looked into it. Tickets were in such demand, they were having lotteries for the tickets. We had the chance to go to the next to last launch. For reasons I won't discuss here, we didn't go. Big regret now. I hear other rocket launches are pretty impressive. This moved up high on the priority list because of my regret over the shuttle.
    
37. Have my teeth cleaned--It's been too long.
    
38. Make a homemade romantic dinner--I like to cook. I don't do it often enough.
    
39. Fix the turn signal on my car--My car recently indicated one of the turn signals is out. I need to do this before I get a ticket.
    
40. Engage in a fast--This is a spiritual discipline that my faith tradition has encouraged or talked about much. I want to learn more about it.
    
41. Copy and send family records to family--I have a family bible in which I found notes written by my great grandmother. I intend to type them up, scan the notes and distribute them to my family.
    
42. Organize and update financial records--Another organizational task to work on.
    
43. Go horseback riding--I haven't been on a horse in years. Julie loves horses. I think this will be a great date opportunity.
    
44. File taxes by the end of February--I procrastinate. I've requested an extension our taxes the last two years and then filed at the last minute. This usually causes problems because I can't find a piece of paper. I've imposed a deadline this year to get it done.
    
45. Write a thank you note for every gift received this year--Handwritten notes are becoming a lost art, particularly thank you notes. I intend to show my gratitude this year in this personal way.
    
46. Find/Recruit a ministry replacement--I have several ministries in which I work in my congregation. Our elders are pushing us to involve more people. I'd like to find someone to take over one of my ministry areas.
    
47. Copy the key to my car--This is another silly goal. My car only came with one key. Julie has said she feels strange not having her own key to my car. This should be easy to take care of...but I have done it yet.
    
48. Take a pro bono client--The Florida Bar requires supporting pro bono work either by actually doing the work or making a donation to an organization that provides pro bono services. I've fulfilled the requirement with donations so far in my career. This year, I want to actually work with a client in need.
    
49. Work with a bar committee--Another professional development goal. The purpose is to get to know people in my field and hopefully generate some business.
    
50. Organize the closet in the second bedroom--Cluttered and messy. Definitely in need of some organization.
    
51. & 52. These last two goals are intensely personal goals that are not appropriate to share here. I know this seems to violate the accountability part of this project. I assure you the people involved have been made aware of these two goals and will have the opportunity to hold me to account. I'll let you know when I work on them or cross them off.

There you have it. My goals for this year. Some are one time events. Some will require some work and time to complete. And some will require weekly and daily diligence and I won't be able to cross them off the list until the year is done. If you know me well, you will know these are some ambitious goals. I look forward to working on them.

Wish me luck and good luck with your own goals this year.